Thursday, March 20, 2008

Be Encouraged!

AL-INSHIRAH (SOLACE, CONSOLATION, RELIEF)
Al Qur’an Surah 94
In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful
Have We not expanded thee thy breast?-
And removed from thee thy burden
The which did gall thy back?-
And raised high the esteem in which thou art held?
So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:
Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
Therefore, when thou art free from thine immediate task, still labor hard,
And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention.


The above scripture is one of my favorite chapters from the Qur’an and I often find comfort and encouragement from it when life’s challenges appear too difficult to overcome. We sometimes expect life to be easy and can get discouraged when it’s not which is why I find reading scripture so important. In our modern world where technology makes everything seem to go faster and require instantaneous results, we can often get caught up in the grind and forget ourselves. Then, when obstacles get in our way we scramble to find ways of removing them when if we had been in the mindset of remembering how God tells us to approach those obstacles, we could have saved ourselves a lot of stress. I call the mindset of remembering God and His will keepin’ the faith.

And keepin’ the faith is not just an abstract “feel good” phrase to me. There were (and still are) plenty of days when I have found it hard to keep the faith, but I did so in spite of the difficulty, convicted in my beliefs that everything in life ends up working out for the great good that God intends. For that reason, surrender to despair or giving up is simply not an option.

For example, my son recently entered an I-don’t-want-to-go-to-school-or do-homework-anymore phase and although we went through it for a little while in first grade, he’s in fifth grade now and requires a better explanation as to why he has to, especially when he’s in a crowded public school where his teacher unfortunately cannot give him the attention he needs; where there are limited resources and therefore limited activities; where they take so many standardized tests that it’s a wonder they have time to complete lessons on a level where the children can come away with a strong knowledge of what they’ve been taught. But when faced with this dilemma I was determined to keep the faith and to try and teach him how he too must learn to remain faithful in every aspect of his life.

I told him that the hadith says for us, mankind, believers, to pursue knowledge even if we have to go all the way to China and that the Bible says that in all thy getting, get an understanding; that it is good to learn and that we should strive to learn as much as we can in life no matter the circumstances. He still has his days when he is not motivated or inspired but at least he now knows the standard. He at least now knows that even if what he is learning may not be the most exciting or thrilling thing in the world, the fact that he is learning is important. This concept alone could mean the world of difference among our children that become so bored with school that they end up dropping out.

Remaining steadfast and faithful creates a platform for being encouraged. Even if it’s hard to find work, if public assistance barely assists anything, if interest rates on loans are daunting, and that’s only when loans are even possible, we must push on. In this way we realize that change is not just what we facilitate in society, but what we must start within ourselves. We must be encouraged. We must be faithful. We must persevere. We must reject evil. We must love. These things empower us and we must be empowered in order to change reality and empower others. God’s word says that He will not forsake the righteous and that He will help those who change what is in their own souls; that with every difficulty there is relief and so we must always keep the faith and then we can always be encouraged.

Peace and Blessings!


Monday, March 3, 2008

Reflections on Life and Feminism

Upon reflecting about my life and considering the mistakes I’ve made along the way I could not help but wonder about other women and whether there were many out there that may have experienced the same types of things I have: whether they were able to pick themselves up or not; how they were or why they were not. The feminist movement comes to mind and I was never really able to connect the meaning of what I had learned about it with reality as I lived it. That is until now.
Remarkably, I don’t ever remember learning about the feminist movement from any woman I knew. Certain concepts were encouraged and assumed, but no one ever sat me down and discussed with me what life had been like for women throughout history and how I fit into the flow and continuity of it all. Popular TV shows alluded to feminism and my high school US History teacher may have skimmed over a couple of pages about woman’s suffrage with our class in 11th grade, but other than that it has been a learn-as-you go reality.
An occasional, “Don’t let him talk to you like that,” from a peer in high school over-hearing an argument between a boyfriend and girlfriend, or an awe-filled “she ran against a guy!” from a classmate when we did not have a girl’s indoor track team and a couple of other girls and I were forced to compete at the boy’s track meets.
Even in college there was no substantial thread of knowledge to hold onto outside of the Women’s Studies Department and I found myself floating along in a world that was racing forward around me.
For example, had I understood the importance of completing my college education as a means of increasing my odds for success in modernity as an African American women, I may have reconsidered leaving school to have my son and start a family when I did. Had I been conscious of my existence as a woman of the fourth generation in my family since slavery in America and the recent struggles for women in this country to be seen and considered as equals in society, I may have made different choices. However, qué será será! Whatever will be will be and I’m not unhappy with my life, as it has turned out thus far. I have a beautiful son whom I couldn’t be more proud of and a wonderful husband who exceeds my expectations again and again. I cannot however ignore the hard days that I have or the fact that there may be women who may have made similar choices as I but who may not have been as fortunate.
Women who may have chosen to leave school or a career to start a family but the endeavor fell through. Now they have a “baby’s daddy” and a car note they cannot pay and it seems to me that just a little more information and thoughtfulness could have helped to deter them from the path that they may have had to tread; information and guidance from their elders regarding their location in history and how to traverse the waters of life.
It could be that my experience is completely and uniquely my own, but it could also be that it is not. However, if in fact it is not and if we as a society expect to improve and to realize liberty and justice all in real time we should then make a stronger and more concerted effort to inform one another in ways that are liberating and judicial.
Useful information should not be restricted to the higher echelons of society or to the strictly religious and all women should be given the chance to succeed and prosper.
I went to the toy store with my son and brother one day and my brother said something that tickled me. As we walked past a large pastel colored box with a picture of a little girl at a miniature ironing board, happily pressing what looked to be an article of clothing he said, “They’re getting them ready early, aren’t they.”
His joking made me laugh, but upon reflection, I realized that he had tapped into a matter that should be of great concern to not only women but to society as a whole and that being the matter of how we are raising our children and to narrow it down, how we are raising our girls.
I don’t have any girls of my own, but I do have a younger sister and nieces so I’ve gotten enough of a dose of modern day college life and club-life worries, America’s Next Top Model, That’s So Raven, and Hannah Montana to wake me up to the reality of what we are teaching one another about womanhood and how to be and live as women.
And I don’t think that everything out there is negative. I’ve watched America’s Next Top Model myself and some of the things they talk about and address on the show are useful, but they rarely provide a context in which the average young women can come away from the show empowered or enlightened within the constrains of their own life circumstances which, after all, is what is most important if we as women are to discover where we must stand on the earth’s stage and play our role completely.
There are too many successful women who live by their faith to exclude God and values from popular discourse and there has to be a way to incorporate righteousness and modesty into women’s lives in ways that are inspiring and liberating. We should think more about what we are getting our girls ready for and if they’re prepared for it; should think more of what we’re getting our own selves ready for and if we are indeed prepared for it also.
There’s a passage in the Bible that says in Proverbs 7:4, “Say to wisdom, "You are my sister," and call insight your intimate friend,” and if we could teach ourselves and our sisters and our daughters and our nieces how to live with wisdom as our sister and insight as our friend there’s no doubt that we could shape a better world; no doubt that we would be equipped to make better and more informed life decisions; no doubt that we would know where we fit in history and how to live feminism to the fullest.

Articles:

Women in Islam
http://iiu.edu.my/deed/articles/wmn_islm.html

Daughters in Islaam
http://www.islamweb.net/ver2/archive/article.php?lang=E&id=140381

The Excellence of Raising Daughters
http://www.themodernreligion.com/women/daughters.html

Books:

Raising Up Queens: Loving Our Daughters Loud and Strong
by Esther Davis-Thompson
http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Up-Queens-Loving-Daughters/dp/1880913461

Raising a Daughter: Parents and the Awakening of a Healthy Woman
by Jeanne Elium and Don Elium
http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Daughter-Parents-Awakening-Healthy/dp/1587611767

Raising Strong Daughters
by Jeanette Gadeberg
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0925190985

Mother-Daughter Wisdom: Understanding the Crucial Link Between Mothers, Daughters, and Health
by Christiane Md Northrup
http://www.amazon.com/Mother-Daughter-Wisdom-Understanding-Crucial-Daughters/dp/0553380125/ref=pd_sim_b_img_1

Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
by Christiane Md Northrup
http://www.amazon.com/Womens-Bodies-Wisdom-Creating-Emotional/dp/0553384104/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_b

Friday, February 22, 2008

Black History Month: African Americans and Islam

Black History Month: African Americans and Islam

One would think that by the way Islam is made to appear foreign to the “American” way of life that Muslims are new to American society. It amazes me that there is such a candid discourse of how anti-American Islam is and of the potential for a clash of civilizations when there are Muslims who have been living in this country and practicing their religion for over 30 years and not just immigrant Muslims from other countries but indigenous African American Muslims. They’ve been working along side their fellow citizens, paying their taxes, sending their children to school and worrying about the same things that we all worry about, and yet they seem to go unacknowledged.

Having practiced Islam for 10 years, I’m unable to include myself among that generation of Muslims, although I have been inspired and encouraged by their stories, some of them famous and some of them not so famous; many of them having grown up during the era of Jim Crow, having survived the tumultuous changes of the 1960’s and 70’s, and now having witnessed the dawning of a new century are addressing new challenges and realizing the fulfillment of new promises.

During this month when we reflect on the contributions of our African American ancestors to American society and to the betterment of the human family I honor the Muslims that have come before me with gratitude to Allah Ta’aala for the great things, large and small, that He has allowed them to accomplish on our behalf.

Articles:

Mainstream Islam in the African-American Experience
http://www.masnet.org/history.asp?id=1572

Islam in America: From African Slaves to Malcolm X
http://nationalhumanitiescenter.org/tserve/twenty/tkeyinfo/islam.htm


Reading:

Islam in the United States of America
by Sulayman Nyang
http://www.amazon.com/Islam-United-States-America-Sulayman/dp/1871031699/ref=pd_sim_b_img_5

The Autobiography of Malcolm X
by Malcolm X
http://www.amazon.com/Autobiography-Malcolm-X/dp/0345379756

African American Islam
by Aminah McCloud
http://www.amazon.com/African-American-Islam-Aminah-McCloud/dp/0415907861

Islam, Black Nationalism and Slavery: A Detailed History
by Adib Rashad (Author), Sulayman S. Nyang (Introduction)
http://www.amazon.com/Islam-Black-Nationalism-Slavery-Detailed/dp/0962785482/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203711989&sr=1-8

Servants of Allah: African Muslims Enslaved in the Americas
by Sylviane Diouf
http://www.amazon.com/Servants-Allah-African-Enslaved-Americas/dp/0814719058/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b

African Muslims in Antebellum America: Transatlantic Stories and Spiritual Struggles
by Allan D. Austin http://www.amazon.com/African-Muslims-Antebellum-America-Transatlantic/dp/0415912709/ref=pd_sim_b_title_12

Life Reminders

Psalm 145:8-9 The Lord is Gracious and Merciful
The Lord is Gracious and Merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. The Lord is good to all, and His Compassion is over all that He has made.

Matthew 11:28 Gentleness and Humility
“Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Surah 33:21 Beautiful Pattern of Conduct
Ye have indeed in the Messenger of Allah a beautiful pattern of conduct for any one whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day, and who engages much in the Praise of Allah.

Sahih Muslim, Book Unknown: Changing an Evil Action
“Whosoever of you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand; and if he is not able to do so, then with his tongue; and if he is not able to do so, then with his heart; and that is the weakest of faith.”


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